I recently had a conflict with an individual that left me, well, pretty ticked off. I typically don’t
get angry or upset, but in the aftermath of this conflict I was not a happy person. Of course, I
took the time to rant and rave about this conflict to a confidant who listened sympathetically.
Later, as I reflected on what happened, I recalled what a teacher from my previous school
would say in this type of situation. After sharing my frustration or anger about the person I was
in conflict with, this teacher would ask me, “Well, have you prayed for them?” Ouch.
I’ve been thinking about how I respond to conflict in the context of our theme for this school
year “Lord, Teach Us to Pray” based on Philippians 4:6. Matthew 5:44 has something very
pointed to say on this topic: “But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who
persecute you.” Wait, what??? I’m supposed to pray for someone I’m in conflict with? Why not
righteous anger instead? That feels so much better. But the truth is God gave us the gift of
prayer as a means to healing and peace and reconciliation in times of strife. In the midst of my
anger, I’d forgotten that Jesus himself prayed for those who sought to end his life. Any of my
trials pale in comparison. Let’s all remember and embrace Jesus’ admonition to let go of our
anger and practice love and prayer instead.